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Wednesday, February 19, 2020

Stress FREE or FEAR

Stress FREE or FEAR

The feeling of not being in charge or control is one of the most common causes of physical and mental illness; most people call it “stress.” The idea of being vulnerable and unsafe generates fear, which in turn triggers profound biochemical changes in the body. These changes become the physical “reality” of ill health and aging. Through the intimate psycho-physiological (mind/body) connection, every thought and feeling, to a lesser or greater degree, alters your experience of health and well-being. A bout of depression can paralyze your immune system, and falling in love can boost it.

If you are convinced that aging is natural and cannot be avoided then this is the reality you are creating for yourself. Likewise, you can draw on the same force that causes destruction in the body and direct it toward healing and rejuvenation. You can prove to yourself that growing old and being affected by disease are merely the manifested projections of ignorance about the real nature of life. Disease and aging are not part of your body’s genetic design. Even the so-called “death-gene,” which is in charge of terminating the lives of cells in our body according to their various predetermined life spans, is the one that keeps us alive. Without this gene we would all die from cancer within weeks. In this sense, controlled k

|destruction is the giver of life, and life that has gone out of control can be the harbinger of death. There is nothing in the normal original setup of our body that could indicate it is causing its own aging or diseases. But there is enough evidence to show that aging and illness originate in the combined effects of fearful, negative mental attitudes and emotions and excessive accumulation of toxic waste material in the body.

ANdrea Moritz

Failure is new way of learning

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, failure means alack of success.

[2] The logical assumption that follows is that you’re only successful when you reach your end goal. In other words, the process doesn’t matter. It’s spelled out in black or white terms: it’s either success or it’s failure. This disempowering definition is one of the primary reasons why people fear and despise failure.

You could argue that it’s all just semantics, but language shapes your behavior, so it’s important to use the right, empowering words. You might consider the following few paragraphs a bit esoteric, but please bear with me and you’ll probably start seeing failure in a new light.If you face a difficult problem and you tell yourself, “I don’t know how to deal with it,” you’ll think of reasons why you can’t do it — and not potential solutions. Your brain acts on your instructions, and it’s the words you use that steer your thinking process. How likely are you to solve the problem if you’re wasting energy coming up with excuses? If instead you tell yourself, “Okay, let’s find a way to figure it out,” you’ll think of potential solutions and probably solve the problem. Same problem, different words, different outcome.Let’s illustrate this with a quick example: John and Kate want to start a business. Both come from the same background and have the same exact resources at their disposal. John says: “If only I had money, I could start a business.”

His disempowering vocabulary “if only” fine-tunes his brain to come up with further excuses why he can’t start a business. Instead of telling herself “if only,” Kate says: “I don’t have money, and this means I need to figure out how to bootstrap my business.”Her brain receives high-quality instructions and she comes up with several ideas to start a business on a shoestring. Same problem, different words, different] outcome.

By Martin Meadows

THE BENEFITS OF MENTAL STRENGTH

It’s often easy to feel mentally strong when life is going well, but at times

problems arise. A job loss, a natural disaster, an illness in the family, or a death

of a loved one is sometimes inevitable. When you’re mentally strong, you’ll be

more prepared to deal with life’s challenges. Benefits of increasing your mental

strength include:

• Increased resilience to stress—Mental strength is helpful in everyday life,

not just in the midst of a crisis. You’ll become better equipped to handle

problems more efficiently and effectively, and it can reduce your overall

stress level.

• Improved life satisfaction—As your mental strength increases, your

confidence will also increase. You’ll behave according to your values, which

will give you peace of mind, and you’ll recognize what’s really important in

your life.

• Enhanced performance—Whether your goal is to be a better parent, to

increase your productivity at the office, or to perform better on the athletic

field, increasing your mental strength will help you reach your full potential.

HOW TO DEVELOP MENTAL STRENGTH

You’ll never become an expert at anything by simply reading a book. Athletes

don’t become elite competitors after reading about their sport nor do top

musicians increase their musical abilities by simply watching other performers

play. They also have to practice.

The following thirteen chapters aren’t meant to be a checklist that you either

do or don’t do. They are a description of habits that everyone falls prey to

sometimes. It’s meant to help you find better ways to cope with life’s challenges

so you can avoid these pitfalls. It’s about growing, improving, and striving to

become a little better than you were yesterday.

Signature Strengths Exercise

The purpose of this exercise is to encourage you to own your signature strengths by finding new and more frequent uses for them. A signature strength has the following hallmarks:

A sense of ownership and authenticity (“This is the real me”)A feeling of excitement while displaying it, particularly at firstA rapid learning curve as the strength is first practicedA sense of yearning to find new ways to use itA feeling of inevitability in using the strength (“Try to stop me”)Invigoration rather than exhaustion while using the strengthThe creation and pursuit of personal projects that revolve around itJoy, zest, enthusiasm, even ecstasy while using it

Now please take the strengths survey. If you do not have access to the web, you can go to the Appendix and take a brief version of this test. On the website, you will get your results immediately and can print them out if you like. This questionnaire was developed by Chris Peterson, a professor at the University of Michigan, and has been taken by more than a million people from two hundred nations. You will have the benefit of being able to compare yourself to other

people like you. M. Seligman

BE MINDFUL ABOUT ANGER

Mindfulness, a state of being often developed through meditation practices, involves paying attention to our present circumstances with acceptance and non-judgment, while enhancing our equanimity. The mindfulness practice guided participants to focus on their breath and body sensations, monitor thoughts and mind-wandering, and develop a non-judgmental orientation toward their experience. Anger is a normal and natural, a healthy emotion. Like any other emotion, it expresses message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, unfair, or intimidating. Many people think that anger management is about learning to suppress your anger. But never getting angry is not a healthy goal. Anger will come out regardless of how hard you try to tamp it down. The true goal of anger management isn’t to suppress feelings of anger, but rather to understand the message behind the emotion and express it in a healthy way without losing control. When you do, you’ll not only feel better, you’ll also be more likely to get your needs met, be better able to manage conflict in your life, and strengthen your relationships.

Mastering the art of anger management takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will get. Anger management with mindfulness is a psycho-therapeutic program for understanding anger, prevention and control. Anger is commonly an outcome of frustration, or of feeling blocked or obstructed from something the client feels is important. Anger is simple as normal emotional phenomenon. Anger can also be a defensive response to underlying fear or feelings of vulnerability or powerlessness. Anger management programs consider anger to be a motivation caused by an identifiable reason which can be logically analysed, and if suitable worked toward.

Anger is an active emotion that calls the person feeling it to respond. People get into anger issues because both the instigator and instigated lack interpersonal and social skills to maintain self-control. They can train to respond to their anger as unwanted and unpleasant rather than react to its need.

Mindfulness for Anger Management exercise:

Sit comfortably with your eyes closed. Observe how your body feels where you are sitting. Take a little deep breath, fully releasing the breath.

Visualize what happened, feeling the anger again and allow it to get as strong as possible within reason. You may feel other emotions as well, such as sadness and fear, but stay with the feeling of anger if you can.

Feel in your body where the anger is and explore the feeling. You may want to push it away, but instead try to investigate how it feels. When you notice a sensation, check whether it increases or decrease in intensity.

Say goodbye to the feeling and slowly bring your attention back to your breath and stay like this for a while, letting your emotions settle into the space of your breath and awareness.

When we use mindfulness to understand and overcome anger we will learn to recognise our feelings of anger, instead of allowing them to control us, we will then be well on the way to using mindfulness for anger management, which has to be a good thing for all our relationships!

• Getting enough sleep,

• Any Exercise on a regular basis

• Good and balanced diet

• Being Gratitude or Human

• Honing your Attitude

• Transforming thoughts to thinking positive

• Pause before you react

Combating Exam Pressure

During the EXAM Season we lot students are getting tensed, I being a psychologist felt that it’s my duty to help the children combat EXAM pressure. So just sharing very critical and important tips- How to Combat Exam Pressure Mindfully! Mindful Techniques can play major role during the exam season- Breathing Techniques. Be a Disciple of discipline - Being a disciplined Student is foremost important in student’s life. Intake of Fresh

and Warm food and warm water can help in excellent studying process. I strongly feel that most of the children study for RESULTS not for EXAMS but I suggest During the EXAM focus only on EXAM and not on Results you will really perform well- Like prepare for 150 marks definitely you get close to 100 marks. Time management is also essential part of exam managing time can change the way you prepare for your exam. Presentation in answer sheet also matters - Bold, Underline, margin, neat and tidy writing sometimes that can also give you extra marks. While in your answer sheet make sure that you are refreshing the Examiners mind. Being confident - Whatever I have studied will definitely pitch in my exam. Optimum Sleep during exam plays a crucial role as it helps in remembering what you have studied and at the same time keeps your mind Fresh.

Interval during exam is also essential. Smart learning approach should be followed at the exam time. Instead of Mugging or Learn by Heart try to Quiz yourself or Re Read and ask yourself questions. Take nap seriously during the exam preparation. Have a continuous learning and testing approach. Make your exam as daily affair rather making as once in a year- meaning make every day as your exam day work as if Unit test is a final exam then FINAL EXAM will look like daily affair. When you are studying makes sure that you are 100% into studies today World Cup Final We need to win the match. Look forward for forgetting so prepare in such a way that I will not forget. Getting optimum SUNLIGHT can do world of Good to your mind and body. Avoid Multitasking. Listen to Calming music that can help calm you down with snacks or drinks whatever you like. Listen the Exam hall examiner and reading instructions given in the answer sheet thoroughly is very important. Believe in yourself that you can succeed. Quotation: Let your HARDWORK propel you a speed so fast that GOOD LUCK

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